The anguish of my soul is that the deep deep loning for the brethren to know you more deeply and intimately than they do now. How dried up this place is when there is no water to keep it damp O Lord. Yet you have called and therefore I believe this is where you will to have me at, although no one will go or follow. The great comfort is in knowing and trusting that you have sent me to this place for your purposes and no other but for your glory and pleasure alone.
Man is not content or happy until they find you and know you and seek to invite others to know you, that is the purpose of Man. Pleasure is only a by product of man glorifying you! Therefore I will say You are my stronghold and my hope.

It is more important for my life to be acceptable to God and not to man. Romans 12:1-2

What the true man of God says is not just because I have been saved I can therefore act just as I please, but, he says that because I have been brought into this kingdom of the Son of God so that I may not live as the world lives but being made into the image of Christ I may be like Christ - Rom. 6:4, Eph 1:4; 4:24, Col. 1:13; 3.

Let us not therefore slander one another in saying that we do evil so that the grace of God may abound even more so, but let us as dearly loved elect children of God, who have been brought out of the domain of the kingdom of darkness (Ephs. 2:1-3), now take hold of a new nature so that the one who has saved us will be glorified and pleased through us (Rom. 9).

Double Punishment

So the problem with the arminian's view of penal substitution is that it produces in and of it self a double punishment. That is Christ took the punishment of every single individual and not the elect, but however, the individual has free will whether they will accept it or not. It makes Christ's death weak and uncertain and God's justice unsure. It does not make Christ death sufficient, but makes men savable that is conditioned up their works.